Linux is by far the best docker experience. I've experienced the same pains as you and possibly more supporting devs on OSX. The osxfs excuses are all a bit hand wavy and the new cached stuff kludgy IMHO. NFS is supposedly much faster, https://github.com/IFSight/d4m-nfs, but has no notification facilities.

Apple, for their part, are way behind the curve on all this. Completely MIA. For the amount of developer dev-station share they have it's amazing what macOS users have to deal with.