Limiting punctuation to inside or outside of the quotation marks always struck me as exceptionally archaic as it frequently overcomplicates a sentence.
You should punctuate the quotation as if the quote were independent. If the quotation is a question it should contain the question mark, it's only logical. A question without a question mark is punctuated incorrectly - that's just plain simple logic.
If I tell you that my wife just asked me, "Can you grab a drink?" The question mark has to be inside the quotes otherwise it becomes my question. I didn't ask myself the question, so why is my punctuation asking it? Plus an unpunctuated quotation looks ugly to me.
As I understand it, the rules come from typesetting, not common practice. As for myself, I'm fine with "What's for dinner?". That strikes me as the only truly logical choice. Solves hugh3's problem cleanly, too. I mean, what, my old English teacher is going to come dock me karma points?
You should punctuate the quotation as if the quote were independent. If the quotation is a question it should contain the question mark, it's only logical. A question without a question mark is punctuated incorrectly - that's just plain simple logic.
If I tell you that my wife just asked me, "Can you grab a drink?" The question mark has to be inside the quotes otherwise it becomes my question. I didn't ask myself the question, so why is my punctuation asking it? Plus an unpunctuated quotation looks ugly to me.