I don't think it's too much at all, the persons argument boils down to "because you can't meet everyone, you don't really have free will to change who you interact with", and if they REALLY believe that, the world is hopeless and they may as well just stop trying.
The world has hope, but we are really constrained.
The correct advice is "make the best of what you have and are" and not pie in the sky "you can do anything".
And yes, it's because you cannot meet everyone or even afford to try every educational path to learn who they are and their language. Or sometimes even move out of country, and even when you do, the are costs.
Ultimately you have to run a cost benefit calculation and many benefits are big gambles in reality.
right, but this leads back to what I said before. Why not just lay down and die? It's like the ultimate form of analysis paralysis. What if there are better people to hang out with? What if I'm not meeting those better people because I'm wasting time enjoying the friends I met in college?
At some point you need to either accept it or change it, both of which you can do. My issue with the previous posts is the claim that you must necessarily become victim to this form of analysis paralysis because you can never truly choose to hang out with ANYONE. That 5 year old in the congo who died of malaria will always be a stranger to you.
