You're thinking of "forced marriage", which is a subset of arranged marriages.
There are arranged marriages where parents play the role of matchmaker and chaperones, with the kids having veto power. Or the converse, where the kids select partners from a professional matchmaker's rolls and the parents have veto power.
Right. All the arranged marriages I'm aware of were ones where the expected norm was for the children to acquiesce to the arrangement, but didn't force them to accept. They did so either to honor their parent's selection (or that of the matchmaker hired by the parents).
I also have colleagues that have declined the arranged matches. Their parents weren't happy, but they did it all the same.
The whole thing with arranged marriages is that the people in the marriage doesn't actually chose who they marry.
What solatic is describing sounds nothing like a arranged marriage. You can always say no and move on, no one is forcing you anything.