> This is not the case for a lot of other things in the life of a teenager. If you work hard at school you aren’t really rewarded, you just have to pass (binary outcome) and if you do an extra project it’s not like you get extra points.
Thank you for saying this. The point itself is something I knew and concluded on my own, but the way you phrased it made me realize that, as a parent, it will be my job to provide a structure on top of school, that rewards my kids somewhat proportionally to effort. As opposed to parents giving near-binary (5+ is good, 4 is meh, 3 sucks, 2 or below and the belt is out) rewards otherwise uncorrelated with effort, which was my experience as a kid, as well as others in my cohort I talked about this with.
Thank you for saying this. The point itself is something I knew and concluded on my own, but the way you phrased it made me realize that, as a parent, it will be my job to provide a structure on top of school, that rewards my kids somewhat proportionally to effort. As opposed to parents giving near-binary (5+ is good, 4 is meh, 3 sucks, 2 or below and the belt is out) rewards otherwise uncorrelated with effort, which was my experience as a kid, as well as others in my cohort I talked about this with.