It's funny you say that because we had this conversation just last weekend. I think it's fair to say we're seriously considering it now because we're both extremely unhappy here.
Obviously we don't want to leave though because at the end of the day this is our home and it will always be where the people we love are. But I think we both agree we're getting to the point where we really have no choice if we want the live the life we want.
Honestly the main blocker is just that the kids in my family have really crappy parents (most are prostitutes, drug dealers, or drug addicts) so we kind of act as parents. They're my family and I love them, but they're honestly the worst parents anyone could possibly have. In recent years we've had kids get falsely diagnosed with various illnesses, get expelled from school, have various dental issues, get trouble with the law, drug abuse, etc. We basically have act as the adults and be there for them because no one else is. If they have parent teacher days, it's not the parents who go, it's us. If they're suck on homework we're the ones who help them. If they're being drugged, we're the ones who step in to stop it. And it's the smaller things that I think are important, like when they're boasting about their dad stealing them a bike for their birthday, explain why that's wrong, just dumb stuff like that.
But still, I think we both know we shouldn't be this involved, but if we don't we know we'll fail them. So you know, it's hard...
Recently though my girlfriend suggested it could work if she could come home once month just to keep an eye on things, but I think that might turn out more difficult that it sounds. If we're needed, we're needed. We can't wait until the end of the month to catch a flight.
Obviously we don't want to leave though because at the end of the day this is our home and it will always be where the people we love are. But I think we both agree we're getting to the point where we really have no choice if we want the live the life we want.
Honestly the main blocker is just that the kids in my family have really crappy parents (most are prostitutes, drug dealers, or drug addicts) so we kind of act as parents. They're my family and I love them, but they're honestly the worst parents anyone could possibly have. In recent years we've had kids get falsely diagnosed with various illnesses, get expelled from school, have various dental issues, get trouble with the law, drug abuse, etc. We basically have act as the adults and be there for them because no one else is. If they have parent teacher days, it's not the parents who go, it's us. If they're suck on homework we're the ones who help them. If they're being drugged, we're the ones who step in to stop it. And it's the smaller things that I think are important, like when they're boasting about their dad stealing them a bike for their birthday, explain why that's wrong, just dumb stuff like that.
But still, I think we both know we shouldn't be this involved, but if we don't we know we'll fail them. So you know, it's hard...
Recently though my girlfriend suggested it could work if she could come home once month just to keep an eye on things, but I think that might turn out more difficult that it sounds. If we're needed, we're needed. We can't wait until the end of the month to catch a flight.