It isn't about where you live or work, it is about the cost of providing services. When homes are farther apart, the infrastructure is physically more spread out. This creates higher costs to build and (especially) maintain roads, electricity, water, sewage, etc.

I am going off of the study described here [0]. I'm happy to view anything you have to provide which proves it is a lie.

[0] https://www.strongtowns.org/journal/2023/7/6/stop-subsidizin...