1) Don't do anything that doesn't have her consent. 2) "Yes means yes" is a better slogan than "no means no." 3) Always be conscious of whether she seems comfortable or not and whether she's enjoying herself. This can be tricky, but always, always err on the side of caution. If she seems merely bored or uninterested, you should consider that a no.

That's really all you need. That and volume: if someone isn't interested, don't take it personally and don't force it. Just move onto someone else. Most pairings aren't meant to happen. If you follow my earlier advice and take care of yourself, it will pretty much automatically.

> "Yes means yes" is a better slogan than "no means no."

Maybe, but it's also very unrealistic, and I doubt very many people want it. Personally, I would prefer if women simply realized that I am attracted to them, and wouldn't explicitly ask me if I want to fuck, and I'm willing to endure the few awkward encounters where they would misread me.

Are you dense? If someone was OK with that kind of intimate contact at that moment asking would result in a 'yes'.

The answer only would have been "yes" until you demonstrated that you actually needed to ask. Being timid and insecure destroys attraction and respect. The world would be a lot better if we didn't work that way, but we do.