People have their priorities, but what's often missing from modern parenting is any semblance of cost benefit analysis. A key example is breastfeeding. The long-term medical benefits of breastfeeding, unless you're in the third world and lack access to clean water, are quite tenuous. But the practical benefit of bottle feeding is real: feeding can be totally delegated to the father. For my wife and I, this has been a huge boon to equitable division of child care between the two of us. I'm the nighttime parent, the "I'm hungry" parent, the "I need comfort" parent. My wife is the "roughhouse with the kid after work" parent. If I were totally dependent on my wife to pump, and if she had breastfed, I doubt I could have established that told with our daughter. Yet, my wife gets a lot of snide comments from other women in her mommy circles who have their kid strapped to themselves 24/7.

Women are pressured with these parenting fads, but taking them on basically concedes to taking on the role of primary caregiver.